At One Life Only Counseling Services, we work with individuals, couples, and families who are dealing with concerns such as anxiety, low mood, relationship difficulties, grief, trauma-related distress, problematic habits, life transitions, and patterns that feel difficult to change.
Our approach is grounded primarily in contextual behavioral science, particularly Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT).
Rather than beginning with the question:
“What disorder does this person have?”
we are more interested in asking:
“What is happening in this person’s life?”
“What is keeping this pattern going?”
“What has this behavior come to do or protect against?”
“And what might help create more workable ways of responding?”
We Look at People in Context
People do not develop problems in a vacuum.
The ways we think, feel, relate, avoid, cope, and respond are shaped over time by our histories, relationships, environments, circumstances, and the consequences of what we have learned to do.
This means that difficulties are not automatically signs that something is fundamentally wrong with you.
Often, patterns that are painful today once made sense within a particular context.
Counseling involves understanding those patterns without reducing the person to them.
You are more than a diagnosis, a test score, a symptom, or a difficult period in your life.
You are a whole person whose choices and patterns make sense in the context of your history, relationships, circumstances, and what matters to you.
Beyond Labels
Diagnoses can sometimes be useful.
They can help people describe common experiences, communicate with other professionals, access services, or identify treatment options.
But a diagnosis is not the same thing as an explanation.
Two people with the same diagnosis may have arrived there through very different histories and may need very different forms of help.
For this reason, we try not to stop at:
“What is this called?”
We also ask:
“How does this work in this particular person’s life?”
“What situations bring it out?”
“What keeps it going?”
“What changes it?”
More Than Test Scores
Psychological tests and assessments can provide useful information, but they are snapshots taken under particular conditions.
They do not capture everything a person can become.
A score cannot fully tell us how someone will respond to a different environment, a meaningful relationship, new opportunities, better support, or changing circumstances.
Assessment is therefore most useful when it helps us understand a person more clearly—not when it becomes a permanent definition of who that person is.
Counseling With a Clear Purpose
Good counseling should help you need less counseling over time.
Counseling is not intended to become an endless process of discussing the same difficulties without movement.
Our goal is to help you:
understand the patterns that keep problems going, recognize the contexts in which those patterns become stronger or weaker, develop more flexible and workable ways of responding, clarify what matters to you, strengthen your ability to make choices consistent with those values, and gradually become less dependent on counseling as your own capacity grows.
Progress does not always mean that difficult thoughts and emotions disappear.
Often, it means becoming better able to respond to them without allowing them to determine the direction of your life.
Values Without Imposition
Counseling should not be about making you live according to your counselor’s values.
Our role is not to tell you what kind of person you are supposed to become.
Instead, we help you examine what matters to you, what your current patterns are costing you, and what kinds of choices might help you move toward a life that is more workable and meaningful within your actual circumstances.
Your culture, relationships, beliefs, responsibilities, history, and constraints all matter.
There is no single template for a good life.
Relationships and Couples Counseling
In couples work, we primarily draw from Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT).
Rather than simply deciding who is right or wrong, IBCT looks at the patterns that develop between partners.
Many recurring conflicts are maintained not only by what each person does, but by how each partner responds to the other over time.
Couples can become trapped in cycles of criticism, withdrawal, defensiveness, pressure, resentment, or avoidance even when both genuinely want the relationship to improve.
Counseling helps make these patterns visible so that partners can respond to each other with greater awareness, flexibility, and choice.
Medication and Other Forms of Care
Counseling does not need to compete with medicine.
Medication can be helpful for some people, and psychological support can be helpful with or without medication.
The important question is not whether one approach is universally better than another.
It is whether a particular intervention is helping a particular person under their particular circumstances.
When medical or psychiatric evaluation appears appropriate, we encourage clients to consult qualified healthcare professionals.
A Science-Informed Approach
Our approach continues to evolve as the evidence evolves.
We aim to use methods that are scientifically informed, coherent with our underlying framework, and responsive to the needs and circumstances of the person in front of us.
This does not mean mechanically applying techniques because they appear in a manual.
Techniques should have a purpose.
We want to understand what a particular intervention is intended to change, why it may be useful for this person, and whether it is actually helping.
Is One Life Only a Good Fit for You?
One Life Only may be a good fit if you are looking for counseling that is:
collaborative rather than authoritarian, attentive to context rather than focused only on labels, grounded in contemporary behavioral science, interested in how problems are maintained rather than merely what they are called, flexible enough to respond to your circumstances, and oriented toward helping you become increasingly capable of navigating life without long-term dependence on counseling.
Choosing a counselor is ultimately a matter of fit.
Credentials, methods, and professional training matter, but so does what happens when two people actually sit down together.
Do you feel heard?
Can you speak honestly?
Can difficult things be discussed without being immediately judged or reduced to a label?
Does the work help you see your situation more clearly and respond to it more effectively?
Those questions matter too.
About One Life Only Counseling Services
One Life Only Counseling Services provides counseling for individuals, couples, and families using contemporary approaches informed by contextual behavioral science, particularly Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy.
Our aim is simple:
to help people understand what keeps them stuck, develop more workable ways of responding, and build lives that increasingly require less counseling—not more.
Good counseling should help you need less counseling over time.
Counseling for Individuals, Couples, and Families
At One Life Only, we use contemporary approaches grounded in contextual behavioral science, particularly Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy (IBCT).
Rather than simply asking “What disorder does this person have?” we ask a different question:
“What is keeping this problem going—and what can we change that will make a meaningful difference?”
This means counseling is not intended to become an endless process of talking about the same difficulties. Our goal is to help you understand the patterns keeping you stuck, develop more workable ways of responding, and eventually become less dependent on counseling—not more.
One Life Only may be a good fit if you are looking for counseling that is structured, collaborative, and grounded in contemporary behavioral science.
Our aim is to help you understand the patterns that keep problems going, develop more workable ways of responding, and build enough confidence and flexibility that counseling becomes less necessary over time.
If you need counseling for depression, anxiety, trauma, relationship (marriage, family) problems, insomnia, anger management problems, infidelity, teen parenting issues, grief processing, addiction, procrastination, work performance, and even weight issues, we provide both inperson and online video counseling for your convenience.
Please text (preferred) or call:
Mobile Number: +63 917 886 5433 (LIFE)
Available also on iMessage, Viber and WhatsApp!
(The best option is to message this number through Viber or WhatsApp and we will gladly call you back or reply!)
Our office is located in Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines.
M Place South Triangle
8004 Mother Ignacia Avenue, Quezon City, Metro Manila, Philippines
Interview with DZXL RMN News, July 2, 2026 discussing different topics related to Ai Attachment and sharing the book, Better People, Better CountryEarly morning guesting at IBC 13’s Treze Mornings with Eve Valdez and Charles Villanueva discussing Scatter Addiction, May 28, 2026Nathan Chua spoke with Pia Guanio Mago about parenting on Net 25’s Kada Umaga, June 2025
The counselor is also an author!
Nathaniel Chua is the author of two books!
Writing under the pen name, Starfly Chua.
New Release!
Many relationship books tell us to find the right person or master the right techniques. Love, Contextually takes a different approach. It invites readers to see love as something we continually build within the context of two changing people living through changing circumstances. Drawing from years of counseling experience and contemporary contextual behavioral science, the book offers a compassionate, practical, and refreshing way to understand conflict, deepen connection, and cultivate healthier relationships.
Better People, Better Country: A Psychological Blueprint for a New Philippines,
published under the pen name Starfly Chua. The pen name was chosen in homage to his grandfather and his ethnic Chinese roots, and reflects a preference for allowing ideas to stand on their own—without emphasis on personal visibility or status.
Here are selected endorsements from international colleagues and clinical experts:
This book is a fascinating personal exploration and cultural adaptation of contextual behavioral science applied to psychotherapy. It takes you, with great clarity and humility, from the philosophical foundations of functional contextualism all the way to its practical applications in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. The way it addresses the challenges of psychological well-being in the Philippines makes it a particularly valuable contribution.
Dr. Matthieu Villatte, PhD, Co-author of Mastering the Clinical Conversation: Language as Intervention
Better People, Better Country offers a transformative shift in perspective, moving from rigid cultural rules that invite moral shaming toward one of contextual understanding. Both deeply personal and extensively practical, Starfly Chua provides a psychosocial blueprint for change and progress at multiple levels of human existence. This book is an invaluable resource for the people of the Philippines because it moves beyond the exhausted cycle of demanding ‘better people’ and instead provides the tools to build ‘better contexts’ — systems that naturally support prosocial values that benefit citizens and country alike.
Lou Lasprugato, MFT
Peer-Reviewed ACT Trainer
For far too long, theories of human behavior and psychology have been relegated to the therapy room, used in private, and often at the individual level. We now have advanced psychological theories that can explain and help foster change at the societal level.
Chua reaches for the same shining star that famed behavior analyst B.F. Skinner once reached for, applying cutting edge behavior change technology to the community at large—not just for the purposes of greater mental health—but for more workable societies. Chua doesn’t just reach for this star, he grasps it firmly. Laid out in this book is a set of common sense reforms that could revolutionize the Philippines and the world at an achievable cost: our own willingness.
Jacob Martinez
Practicing Counselor
Wisconsin, USA
To find out how you can get copies of his books please click here.
Nathaniel Chua is also a member of an international organization called the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). He once became chair of the Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Special Interest Group (DEI-SIG) of ACBS; the first Non-North American to do so.
Nathaniel Chua has a Master’s Degree in Counseling and continues to learn more of the most cutting-edge approaches to working with the human condition.
Below is Nathaniel Chua’s first virtual talk held on November 17, 2023 in front of an international group of therapists from Low or Middle Income Countries (LMIC). He is the first from the Philippines to do this:
What is One Life Only Counseling about?
We value and respect your privacy, and what you share with us is treated confidentially.
You will be respected regardless of your religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, ethnicity, economic status, lifestyle, or personal values. We are LGBTQIA+ friendly.
Your counselor will not impose personal beliefs or values on you.
We welcome people from all faith traditions—and those with no religious affiliation. Spirituality and belief can be deeply personal. For some people they are sources of strength; for others they may also be sources of difficulty or conflict.
Our role is not to tell you what you should believe. It is to understand what matters to you and help you move toward a life and relationships that are more consistent with your own values.
Our work is guided primarily by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy.
Both approaches are grounded in functional contextualism—a scientific framework that seeks to understand behavior within the circumstances in which it occurs.
Rather than asking only whether a thought, feeling, or behavior is “good” or “bad,” we ask:
What function is this serving? What keeps this pattern going? And is it helping you move toward the kind of life or relationship you want?
What is functional contextualism?
Functional contextualism begins with a simple idea:
Behavior does not happen in a vacuum.
Every action, thought, feeling, memory, and reaction occurs within a particular context.
That context includes your history, relationships, environment, culture, learning experiences, expectations, and what is happening around you now.
Understanding that context can help us make better sense of why certain patterns continue—and what may help them change.
What we mean by behavior?
Behavior is not limited to what other people can see.
It also includes private experiences such as thinking, remembering, imagining, worrying, avoiding, planning, and interpreting what is happening around us.
Some behaviors are observable. Others happen quietly inside us.
Both matter.
What we mean by context?
Context is more than the physical place you are in.
It includes your personal history, relationships, memories, culture, present circumstances, and the people who have shaped your life—even when those people are no longer physically present.
The same person may respond very differently depending on stress, sleep, conflict, safety, expectations, past experiences, or the environment they are in.
That is why we try to understand the whole situation rather than judging behavior in isolation.
What we mean by function?
Every behavior occurs for a reason, even when that reason is not immediately obvious.
The “function” of a behavior refers to the role it plays within a person’s life.
For example, avoiding a difficult conversation may reduce anxiety in the short term, even if it creates more problems later.
Anger may sometimes protect a person from feeling vulnerable.
Withdrawal may temporarily reduce conflict while also increasing distance in a relationship.
Understanding the function of a behavior does not mean approving of it.
It means understanding what keeps it going so that more workable alternatives can become possible.
What we don’t believe or practice:
We don’t see you as “broken” or as a set of symptoms to fix. Outside of major physical damage or impairment, there’s no solid science proving that everyday behavior is caused by some permanent biological flaw. You’re not a checklist of traits scored four-out-of-seven or five-out-of-nine. You’re a complex, whole, and freely choosing individual whose actions make sense in the context of your life.
Beyond Labels
Diagnostic labels can sometimes be useful for communication, research, or access to services.
But they do not tell us everything we need to know about a person.
At One Life Only, we place greater emphasis on understanding your individual history, circumstances, patterns, values, and goals than on reducing you to a diagnostic category.
We are interested in the person behind the label.
More Than Test Scores
Psychological tests can provide useful information in some settings.
Our counseling work, however, places greater emphasis on conversation, observation, history, context, and the patterns that emerge in your actual life.
No single score can capture the full complexity of a person.
We therefore focus on understanding how you think, feel, relate, respond, and make choices within the context of your life.
Medication and Counseling
Medication can be useful and, in some cases, important.
Decisions about medication should be made with an appropriately qualified medical professional.
Our role is to focus on psychological and behavioral processes: helping you develop greater flexibility, understand difficult patterns, respond differently to thoughts and emotions, and build a life that reflects what matters to you.
When appropriate, counseling can work alongside medical care rather than being treated as an alternative to it.
A Science-Based Approach
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy has been studied across a wide range of psychological and behavioral difficulties.
ACT-based principles have also been adapted into public mental health programs designed to help people cope with stress and difficult life circumstances.
The World Health Organization has used ACT-informed material in its stress-management resources, including *Doing What Matters in Times of Stress*.
For us, the important point is not that one therapy can solve every problem.
It is that people can learn skills that help them respond more flexibly to difficult thoughts, feelings, and circumstances—and continue moving toward what matters even when life is hard.
Counseling With a Clear Purpose
Therapy should not be a random collection of techniques.
Different methods can be useful, but they should fit within a coherent understanding of the problem and the goals of counseling.
At One Life Only, the techniques we use are guided by an underlying framework.
We do not simply ask:
**“What technique should we try next?”**
We ask:
**“What is happening here, what function is it serving, and what response is most likely to help this person move toward what matters?”**
Every intervention should have a reason.
Every step should have a purpose.
And over time, good counseling should help you become increasingly able to navigate your life without needing counseling to do it for you.
Here’s a video about what makes One Life Only Counseling Services different:
May 14, 2025 Nathan Chua was one of two guest resource persons at the UST campus with third year psychology students. Topic was about bulimia and anorexia.
Recent certificate given to Nathan Chua for presenting a talk about couple’s therapy in front an international audience of therapists from Low or Middle Income Country (LMIC). He is the first and so far the only one from the Philippines to accomplish this.
Nathan Chua has appeared on mainstream media in the Philippines to discuss ACT and functional contextualism in a way that remains faithful to the underlying model.
Being faithful to the model means therapy is not simply a collection of techniques chosen at random. A “therapy salad” approach can mix methods without a clear rationale, which may make counseling feel fragmented or confusing.
An integrative approach, by contrast, is guided by a unifying framework. Different methods may still be used, but they are selected with purpose and connected to a clear understanding of the client’s goals and the patterns keeping them stuck.
In other words, the question is not simply, “What technique should we use?” but “Why are we using it, and how does it fit with what we are trying to change?”
Every step we take together has a purpose, not just a mix of techniques.
Here are some of the testimonials that people have given for our work.
From a parent:
My son was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. He’s been undergoing therapy each year between June to September. He’s given synthetic meds in between therapy but i am not seeing consistent progress. We needed to find a psychiatric support that can really help him.
It was a blessing indeed when i met one of the resource speaker from our community event that introduced us to sir Nathaniel.
Here’s an excerpt from my son’s long message to me …. “learning a lot through this therapy and had a ton of realizations din so i wanna say thank u so much ma…”
One life Only counselling services is truly effective and i hope it can help more people who suffers from mental health concerns.
From a partner:
Nathan is amazing! We learned so much about our relationship in just a few sessions. He also gives reading references, which helps a lot to navigate the information he provides in his session. Overall, would recommend to any couple in need of counselling.
From a husband:
Me and my wife ran into a bad patch due to outside pressure put onto our marriage. I decided to book a set of appointments with one life and I can say it help so much I wish we went years ago. We have an amazing marriage and friendship. Best thing we ever did.
Interview with Julius Babao and Christine Bersola Babao, October 25, 2023Guest resource person with Boy Abunda on his show The BottomlineJuly 2024 interview on Kapuso Mo Jessica Soho about jealousy and anger
He has also done interviews on YouTube with the developers of ACT and IBCT.
Interview with Dr. Steven C. Hayes, the developer of ACT, April 5, 2022Interview with Dr. Andrew Christensen May 14, 2022
Here is a live interview on Kada Umaga on Net 25 starting at the 25 minute mark:
Here’s a solo interview of Nathan Chua with an ACT Matrix Expert and Counselor from the United States, Jacob Martinez:
Interviews with the experts:
Here are two interviews with the two experts that have had a huge impact on my work in recent years. They are with Dr. Steven Hayes and Dr. Andrew Christensen. Here are the videos:
