Why Suicide Risk Is Harder to Predict Than People Think
Most people assume therapists can predict suicide the way meteorologists predict storms. But modern psychological research tells a much more complicated story.
In this video, I discuss why risk factors are not the same as reliable prediction, how human behavior is deeply context-sensitive, and why many contextual behavioral scientists are becoming more cautious about the illusion of certainty in prediction.
This is also why therapy is not only about risk management and control, but about understanding suffering in real time, reducing isolation, building psychological flexibility, and helping people reconnect with workable ways of living.
A contextual behavioral science perspective on therapy, compassion, and human behavior.
We offer counseling sessions focused on helping you respond more effectively to complex relationship situations — without pressure, judgment, or one-size-fits-all advice.
The Problem with Oversimplified Advice
Advice like “avoid toxic people” works well on social media because it’s clear, direct, and emotionally satisfying. But it can also create guilt and confusion when people find that they can’t actually follow it.
You might start asking yourself:
“What’s wrong with me?”
“Why can’t I just walk away?”
“Am I weak for staying?”
In many cases, the issue is not weakness — it’s context.
A More Workable Question
Instead of asking:
“Should I avoid this person?”
A more helpful question is:
“What is workable in this situation?”
This shifts the focus from rigid rules to practical, real-life solutions.
What You Can Do Instead
Depending on your situation, more workable options may include:
Setting clear but realistic boundaries
Limiting exposure rather than cutting off completely
Changing how you respond in difficult interactions
Building support systems outside the relationship
Gradually creating options if leaving is your long-term goal
Avoidance is sometimes the right choice — but it’s not the only choice.
A More Flexible Way to Think About Relationships
From a contextual behavioral perspective, the goal is not to follow rules perfectly, but to respond in ways that actually improve your life over time.
Some relationships require distance.
Some require boundaries.
Some require patience and strategy.
And some, eventually, may require letting go.
But the key is this:
The best choice is the one that is workable in your real-life context — not just what sounds good in theory.
Watch the Full Video
Watch the full discussion above to explore this idea in more detail and learn how to apply it to your own relationships.
If this is something you’re going through, you’re not alone.
I was recently invited by Jacob Martinez, a licensed professional counselor from Wisconsin, to contribute to an international ACT training series in collaboration with PESI.
For many years, I’ve been on the other side of these trainings—as a participant, learning from international clinicians and trying to make sense of how these ideas apply in real-world settings.
This invitation marks a meaningful shift for me: from learning within that space to contributing to it.
In this 45-minute segment, I discuss a core distinction in contextual behavioral science:
Functional coherence vs essential coherence.
In simple terms:
Essential coherence asks: “Is this true? What is this really?”
Functional coherence asks: “Does this work? What does this lead to?”
Most of us—including many clinicians—are trained to think in essential terms: labels, traits, diagnoses, and fixed explanations about “what a person is.”
ACT takes a different approach.
Instead of focusing on what thoughts or emotions are, it focuses on what they do—how they function in context, and whether they help a person move toward a meaningful and workable life.
This shift may seem subtle, but it has wide implications—not just for therapy, but for how we understand relationships, culture, and social issues.
I’m sharing this here in the hope of making these ideas more accessible, especially within the Filipino context, where moral and label-based thinking are often emphasized.
Because the real shift is not just learning new techniques.
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Has Psychology Lost its Soul? When a person is in pain, we rush to name it. We call it depression, trauma, narcissism. And when someone speaks about it, we ask: “Are they qualified?” Somehow, we’ve turned understanding into a privilege — guarded by titles, diagnoses, and institutional approval. But psychology, at its heart, was never meant to be a priesthood. It was meant to be a language of compassion — a way for all of us to understand what it means to be human. In this video, counselor Nathaniel Chua of One Life Only Counseling Services reflects on how modern psychology may have lost its soul — and how functional contextualism (the science behind Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) offers a way back. It’s a call to move beyond labels, diagnoses, and hallowed titles — toward a kind of psychology that belongs not to experts, but to everyone who is learning to understand themselves and others. “We don’t need more experts. We need more understanding.” – Steven C. Hayes 🎧 Watch or listen to the full reflection on One Life Only Counseling Services: www.onelifeonly.net. HasPsychologyLostItsSoul #OneLifeOnlyCounseling NathanielChua ACTtherapy IBCT FunctionalContextualism StevenHayes AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy ContextMatters MentalHealthAwareness TherapyPhilippines BeyondLabels HumanUnderstanding ValuesBasedLiving PsychologicalFlexibility MeaningfulPsychology#fyp#foryou#counselingphilippines#PsychologyVlog#counseling#onelifeonlycounseling
And when someone speaks about it, we ask: “Are they qualified?”
Somehow, we’ve turned understanding into a privilege — guarded by titles, diagnoses, and institutional approval.
But psychology, at its heart, was never meant to be a priesthood.
It was meant to be a language of compassion — a way for all of us to understand what it means to be human.
In this video, counselor Nathaniel Chua of One Life Only Counseling Services reflects on how modern psychology may have lost its soul — and how functional contextualism (the science behind Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) offers a way back.
It’s a call to move beyond labels, diagnoses, and hallowed titles —
toward a kind of psychology that belongs not to experts,
but to everyone who is learning to understand themselves and others.
“We don’t need more experts.
We need more understanding.” – Steven C. Hayes
🎧 Watch or listen to the full reflection on One Life Only Counseling Services: www.onelifeonly.net.
How to Make Wiser Choices…A Mental Health Month Exercise What do you do when your mind pulls you in two directions — between what you should do and what you want to do? In this Mental Health Month reflection, therapist Nathaniel Chua from One Life Only Counseling Services shares a simple yet powerful ACT-based exercise that helps you pause, notice old survival rules, and choose from your values instead of your fears. Through the Two Truths Practice, you’ll learn how to: ✅ Recognize the “fight, flight, freeze” rules that still shape your reactions. ✅ Make peace with both sides of yourself — the fearful and the brave. ✅ Use your inner GPS (your values) to make wiser choices in life. True mental health isn’t about erasing struggle — it’s about creating space to live meaningfully, even with it. 💬 Try the exercise: 1️⃣ Name both sides of your inner conflict. 2️⃣ Validate both — they each want something good for you. 3️⃣ Let your values guide your next small step. If this message resonates with you, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more reflections that combine psychology, compassion, and everyday wisdom. #OneLifeOnlyCounseling MentalHealthMonth ACTtherapy PsychologicalFlexibility SelfAcceptance ValuesBasedLiving MindfulnessPractice InnerPeace TherapyPhilippines NathanielChua MentalHealthAwareness SelfGrowth AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy FunctionalContextualism#fyp#foryou#counselingphilippines#PsychologyVlog#counseling#onelifeonlycounseling
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Erratum: B.F. Skinner did write on page 156 of his novel Walden 2 his desire for a society that does not give special honor to members of the community through the words of Frazier. Here’s part of the quote:
“We are opposed to personal competition. We don’t encourage competitive games…We never mark any member for special approbation…A triumph over another man is never a laudable act. Our decision to eliminate personal aggrandizement arose quite naturally from the fact that we were thinking about the whole group. We do not see how the group could gain from individual glory.”
