This may be one of the most common errors in human thinking.
We explain behavior by looking inside people when we should first be looking around them.
Category: Life Quotes
What does it mean to be perfect?
The word perfect comes from the Latin perfectus.
It originally meant complete.
Not flawless.
Not superior.
Not better than others.
Complete.
The problem-solving mind spends much of its time convincing us that something is missing.
Yet before we were successful or unsuccessful, admired or rejected, confident or insecure, we were already human.
Perhaps perfection is not becoming someone else.
Perhaps it is living fully as the person you already are.
You are not an unfinished human waiting for permission to exist.
When Doing Right Ends Up Feeling Wrong
There is a common assumption that change in therapy means stopping the wrong thing and starting the right thing.
But sometimes the very thing you’re trying to do to improve becomes a reminder of what you’ve struggled to stop doing.
The new habit reminds you of the old one.
The exercise reminds you of past failures.
The goal reminds you of how far you still have to go.
And when you inevitably stumble, it can feel less like learning and more like proof that change is impossible.
Seeking Comfort
When comfort becomes you compass,
emptiness can become your destination.
Living With ACT
The paradox of ACT is that many people arrive through thinking,
but heal through living.
The World That Shaped the Book
Better People, Better Country
is rooted in the belief that the strongest critiques of dehumanization emerge not from outrage alone, but from real encounters with human suffering.
To Live Without Regret
To live without guilt is to live without mistakes.
To live without mistakes is to live without risk.
And to live without risk ultimately turns living into lifelessness.
Living With Differences
“We are not meant to match.
We are meant to meet.”
— Starfly Chua
Better People, Better Country:
A Psychological Blueprint for a New Philippines
Living Healthily vs. Living Wisely
“We are often far more focused on who we are, when we would be wiser to focus on what we most deeply and enduringly desire.”
— Hank Robb
Can a Marriage Get Sick?
“People say things like, ‘We want a healthy marriage.’ Now, how can a marriage get sick? What is a virus that attacks a marriage? What we mean is we want a fulfilling marriage. We want something that our heart yearns for.”
– Hank Robb
Hank Robb spoke about the limits of the disease model in a recent interview with Nathaniel Chua. Watch the interview here:
onelifeonly.net/two-shrinks-over-drinks-navigating-wisdom-psychology-a-conversation-with-hank-robb/