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@onelifeonlycounseling The kind of advice we don’t question. Ever notice how some motivational advice feels inspiring at first… then oddly heavy later? This video looks at a subtle pattern most of us feel, but rarely name. ▶️ Watch till the end. Motivation PsychologyTok MentalHealthPH SelfHelp #ThinkDeeper LifeAdvice PersonalGrowth FilipinoTikTok
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@onelifeonlycounseling Has Psychology Lost its Soul? When a person is in pain, we rush to name it. We call it depression, trauma, narcissism. And when someone speaks about it, we ask: “Are they qualified?” Somehow, we’ve turned understanding into a privilege — guarded by titles, diagnoses, and institutional approval. But psychology, at its heart, was never meant to be a priesthood. It was meant to be a language of compassion — a way for all of us to understand what it means to be human. In this video, counselor Nathaniel Chua of One Life Only Counseling Services reflects on how modern psychology may have lost its soul — and how functional contextualism (the science behind Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) offers a way back. It’s a call to move beyond labels, diagnoses, and hallowed titles — toward a kind of psychology that belongs not to experts, but to everyone who is learning to understand themselves and others. “We don’t need more experts. We need more understanding.” – Steven C. Hayes 🎧 Watch or listen to the full reflection on One Life Only Counseling Services: www.onelifeonly.net. HasPsychologyLostItsSoul #OneLifeOnlyCounseling NathanielChua ACTtherapy IBCT FunctionalContextualism StevenHayes AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy ContextMatters MentalHealthAwareness TherapyPhilippines BeyondLabels HumanUnderstanding ValuesBasedLiving PsychologicalFlexibility MeaningfulPsychology#fyp #foryou #counselingphilippines #PsychologyVlog #counseling #onelifeonlycounseling
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When a person is in pain, we rush to name it.
We call it depression, trauma, narcissism.
And when someone speaks about it, we ask: “Are they qualified?”
Somehow, we’ve turned understanding into a privilege — guarded by titles, diagnoses, and institutional approval.
But psychology, at its heart, was never meant to be a priesthood.
It was meant to be a language of compassion — a way for all of us to understand what it means to be human.
In this video, counselor Nathaniel Chua of One Life Only Counseling Services reflects on how modern psychology may have lost its soul — and how functional contextualism (the science behind Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) offers a way back.
It’s a call to move beyond labels, diagnoses, and hallowed titles —
toward a kind of psychology that belongs not to experts,
but to everyone who is learning to understand themselves and others.
“We don’t need more experts.
We need more understanding.” – Steven C. Hayes
🎧 Watch or listen to the full reflection on One Life Only Counseling Services: www.onelifeonly.net.
#HasPsychologyLostItsSoul #OneLifeOnlyCounseling #NathanielChua #ACTtherapy #IBCT #FunctionalContextualism #StevenHayes #AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy #ContextMatters #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapyPhilippines #BeyondLabels #HumanUnderstanding #ValuesBasedLiving #PsychologicalFlexibility #MeaningfulPsychology
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@onelifeonlycounseling How to Make Wiser Choices…A Mental Health Month Exercise What do you do when your mind pulls you in two directions — between what you should do and what you want to do? In this Mental Health Month reflection, therapist Nathaniel Chua from One Life Only Counseling Services shares a simple yet powerful ACT-based exercise that helps you pause, notice old survival rules, and choose from your values instead of your fears. Through the Two Truths Practice, you’ll learn how to: ✅ Recognize the “fight, flight, freeze” rules that still shape your reactions. ✅ Make peace with both sides of yourself — the fearful and the brave. ✅ Use your inner GPS (your values) to make wiser choices in life. True mental health isn’t about erasing struggle — it’s about creating space to live meaningfully, even with it. 💬 Try the exercise: 1️⃣ Name both sides of your inner conflict. 2️⃣ Validate both — they each want something good for you. 3️⃣ Let your values guide your next small step. If this message resonates with you, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more reflections that combine psychology, compassion, and everyday wisdom. #OneLifeOnlyCounseling MentalHealthMonth ACTtherapy PsychologicalFlexibility SelfAcceptance ValuesBasedLiving MindfulnessPractice InnerPeace TherapyPhilippines NathanielChua MentalHealthAwareness SelfGrowth AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy FunctionalContextualism#fyp #foryou #counselingphilippines #PsychologyVlog #counseling #onelifeonlycounseling
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@onelifeonlycounseling What I learned when I disappoint clients As therapists, we all face moments when clients feel disappointed in us. In this vlog, I explore why that happens — drawing on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), insights from Russ Harris, Relational Frame Theory (RFT), and a moving story shared by Steven C. Hayes. Whether you’re a counselor, psychologist, or simply curious about the challenges of therapy, this reflection will help you see how resistance, counter-compliance, and disappointment can actually open the door to growth and values-based change. TherapyInsights ACTTherapy RelationalFrameTheory RussHarris StevenCHayes AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy CounselingJourney TherapistLife CouplesTherapy #PsychologyVlog #onelifeonlycounseling #counseling #counselingphilippines #fyp #foryou
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Erratum: B.F. Skinner did write on page 156 of his novel Walden 2 his desire for a society that does not give special honor to members of the community through the words of Frazier. Here’s part of the quote:
“We are opposed to personal competition. We don’t encourage competitive games…We never mark any member for special approbation…A triumph over another man is never a laudable act. Our decision to eliminate personal aggrandizement arose quite naturally from the fact that we were thinking about the whole group. We do not see how the group could gain from individual glory.”
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by Nathan Chua
The School Play:
I remember some of the most fun I had back in my school days, was when we had to do role plays. Not just any other role play, but actually create a skit as a medium to learn. There’s also very little pressure as these were done in front of a class only and not a major production wherein a whole auditorium of students were there to watch.
My Louis Vuitton Story:
I once entered an LV store in Metro Manila, and scoured through some of the merchandise. As I was doing that, I noticed the attentiveness of the sales people as there were hardly any people around who were shopping. I looked at some items that I thought were very impressive and their price tags. As I was on my way out, I said, “I love your products but I can’t afford any of them!”
Walking around with plastic buckets:
Have you ever had a time when you and your friends went out and knew that you were all going to do something rather unconventional and at times downright embarrassing? Of course, always in the spirit of good clean fun. Well, I am one of those who has gone out with a group of my high school male friends wearing clothes that should only belong to the home, carrying plastic buckets and brooms, and going inside a mall to deposit the stuff we had at the front of the department store where people usually leave their shopping items.
Ordering a siopao at Mcdo:
When I am in a fast food restaurant, I sometimes order something obviously unserious at the counter. For what reason? Nothing just for fun! As the heading for this paragraph tells you, I have in the past ordered the Jollibee Chicken Joy at a McDonald’s restaurant!
Which leads me to how I got to think about writing something like this for all of you. When I did those I did not know anything about contextual behavioral science. About a couple of weeks ago, I found an online audio resource created by Steven Hayes, the developer of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and RFT (Relational Frame Theory). He shared one of the ways we can pop that bubble or illusion that says we do what we think, by doing exactly what I had been doing sporadically since oh, high school? I hadn’t realized doing these crazy things weren’t just fun, they were also about letting go of some of the rules that we tend to sell our lives to! What I was doing was letting go of the rules that shackled me from pursuing what would be psychologically risky, but at the same time liberating. I can choose to be how I want to be at any given moment!
This article reminds me of my father. He was a good but also misunderstood man. Believe me, I was one of those who did. He had always been a businessman who inherited a family business. Through decades of working in the business, he could not manage to make a sizable profit. He found himself mired in debt until the day he passed. There was one skill that we, his kids, thought that could have made him a world-class cartoonist. We saw some of his drawings of caricatures of his friends with a pen! His every line had a precision that he didn’t need a pencil to make his initial sketch. Awesome talent that was never discovered nor shared with more people because he thought he couldn’t.
Are you living with can’ts, shoulds, musts in your life? Yeah they sure feel safe, but do they make you feel alive? Doing what your mind tells you you can’t, is a part of the exercise towards breaking that bubble. That bubble that says you can’t get out of that family business that is so comfortably limiting. That bubble that says you can’t do this or that. Don’t get me wrong, it is not my intention to tell you that anyone can be anything. We all do have limits. The question is, have you tested the limits and seen how liberating it can be on that side where your mind says no, you can’t. And maybe you can just, by doing these silly things for nothing, be you, and no one else but you!
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On November 17, 2023, Nathan had the privilege of presenting a talk for an international audience of therapists from Low or Middle Income Countries (LMIC) about Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy. Certificate of Presentation below:
